I work selling stuff at a small shop in Rayong.
Just need to vent a bit haha
I'm 29, work as a shop/food gift shop staff, I'm at the shop mornings to afternoons, like 8am to 3:30pm every day. Okay so, the thing is we just got a new boss at the start of this month, and their behavior makes me half amused half uncomfortable, can’t explain. Sometimes they help lift boxes, unpack, clean, talk politely, but... there are parts that cross the line.
At first I thought they were just a cheerful person, but sometimes they sign the attendance sheet for me without telling me, and they’ll furrow their brow like "Why so slow?" even though I just finished moving stuff at 10:15. Like they’re timing me or something, I don’t know.
Once they even reached for my phone—like, grabbed my phone to look at something I guess. I was so shocked, they grabbed the screen and started sliding through my photos before I could react. My hand jerked, I wasn’t trying to be angry but it felt like a boundary crossed, right? I really don’t like people touching my personal things. I keep small things like spare shirt buttons in a plastic box and a ring I forgot somewhere—so I softly said, "I don’t really like people touching my personal stuff." They smiled and said "Oh, just joking," and then did it again. Like, just for a sec, but for me it piles up as uncomfortable.
Some coworkers say I’m overthinking, but sometimes I wonder if it’s because I’m younger or maybe I’m being too sensitive, I don’t know. Hmm. Should I speak up directly and formally? I’m worried it might change the vibe, but if I let it go I’m afraid they’ll get used to it and it will get worse. I’m so confused—why do they have to touch things without asking?
I want to keep good relations with the team, but I don’t want little things to build into a problem. I don’t want a split team either T_T
What do you all think? Should I say it formally, or just give a light reminder in the moment? Maybe they really don’t realize. So confused but super uncomfortable.