Sorry, this is my first post so I'm probably not very tidy about how I write.

So I'm 28, freelance, living in Nonthaburi. Been with my boyfriend for almost three years, like two and a half years maybe. We met back when we both had regular jobs. He’s a sweet guy and we used to work together at the start, but lately things have been a bit off.

Before this he didn’t lock his phone much, but about a month ago—maybe four weeks—he started locking his screen more often. He says it’s because of lots of client work. I mean, he does have work, but not secret-level work that needs all that locking. I came across an Instagram story where someone tagged him and he commented super cozy, like way too friendly. And the person who commented looked like a stranger but kinda matched the profile pic of someone he once said was a classmate.

It happened around one in the afternoon. I saw it and knocked my coffee cup so some spilled, but it wasn’t a huge deal. Still, the feeling sat in my chest for like half an hour.

I tried asking indirectly who it was. He said it was a friend from school and laughed, but the laugh didn’t sound wholehearted — then got quiet. There was this one Sunday night he went out saying he had to deliver a file to a client but came back later than usual, like two hours later, and that felt weird.

I don’t like confrontations and yelling. I prefer to talk things out, but now I’m not sure if I should trust him or I’m overthinking. I’m scared that if I bring it up and I’m wrong, I’ll be the one causing problems. But if I stay quiet, that’s bad too. I feel like my importance is being split, like he’s starting to have a space I can’t enter. It sucks.

Have any of you dealt with this? Should I clear it up directly, or watch and wait? What should I do? I’m so confused.

P.S. If she’s actually just a friend I want to be bigger-hearted, but I can’t seem to do it T_T lol