I'm in Chonburi.
I just really need to vent, still kinda confused.
Basics first: I'm 25, doing a master's at a university near Pattaya, doing part-time work, not making a lot but planning ahead. Been dating my girlfriend for almost two years and we've been talking about marriage seriously for a while.

Quick version: it started with wedding prep. Small wedding, not many relatives, but when we talked about the budget for the event she seemed like she didn't want me handling money much. Like she wanted to do everything herself even though I put some personal savings into a small joint account specifically for wedding costs. But when she actually pays, she often changes her mind and buys little things I wasn't consulted on — like home decor that's over our budget, or a pricier florist — things I look at and think aren't worth it. I'm not stingy, but it feels like nothing is discussed beforehand.

A lot of times she says she trusts me, but when I ask to check the budget or ask her to send a payment slip she gets annoyed, answers short, like "don't get involved," and goes quiet. Then if I ask later it's treated like nothing happened. I'm really confused. I used to secretly save money sometimes too because I didn't want to be annoying, but if we're going to live together shouldn't things be transparent? Am I being picky? Am I overthinking?

Another thing: she likes holding onto stuff we don't really need in the rental room we'll share after marriage. She has collector stuff from school days overflowing in boxes and says she keeps it for the future, but our condo space is limited. I tried to make a clear space allocation chart, but it turns into a small thing that becomes an argument. Sometimes I raise my voice a bit — sorry — but it really bothers me.

Now I'm starting to worry that if we marry these little things will become time bombs later. I want a relationship where we talk straight and divide duties clearly, but I don't want to be controlling. Is it too much to expect her to be involved with money and shared space? I'm trying to stay calm, explain reasons, use sticky notes, chat, but sometimes it feels like I'm met with indifference.

Am I overreacting? Or should I call a big sit-down talk once to clear everything up, and if she won't change then what? OP, newbie making a thread here lol. Please give advice, friends — what do you think?

P.S. Honestly, if your partner handles all the money but won't explain, should you be worried?